by tascha |
But today I am going to tell you a few things I have personally learned about being the wife my husband praises {wow! that sounds boastful, but his praises are how I know I have done something right! so I am going to share what that has been recently}.
**And just because my husband has noticed these things does NOT mean I can give them up as “accomplished”! I still struggle with these -and so much more- every. single. day.**
1. being intentionally “beautiful” for him- dressing more for his eyes.
{I know that might sound like I think I’m pretty, but really, I just mean that what he enjoys about my wardrobe has become more of my focus when I dress & shop}
When I keep my hubby’s likes in the forefront of my thoughts when dressing for the day, I find there are a few items of clothing that really need to go! And when I allow it to influence what I buy, I feel better about spending a few dollars on my wardrobe. I also find that I feel more feminine knowing that there is a man out there that appreciates the way I look { 🙂 }.
**Have you ever asked your husband what clothing he likes on you? or just taken note of his expressive reaction to your outfit?
2. making our supper daily- and usually it is edible. { 🙂 }
I try to make note of the meals he eats quickly and those he gives me some “direction” on… and take the direction as a gentle reminder that I am not the only one eating the food I prepare! While I do try to make our food as nutritionally healthy as possible, sometimes I just try to make something I know he thinks is YUMMY! because HE is my #1!
**Do you let your husband occasionally criticize your food with an open mind {and heart!}? It’s not easy sometimes, but it can show him your love.
3. allowing God to work in my heart.
{if he can notice it, it must not be my imagination that God is working, and He has shown me some ugly things about myself recently}When I ask and then allow God to show me that ugliness called SELF in my heart and then also allow Him to work a change in my life, it makes me a more pleasant person {just trust me on that if you have never experienced it}. And living with a woman who has a pleasant disposition is at least part of EVERY man’s dream! { 🙂 } Yes, it IS hard sometimes.
It is painful to know… sometimes agonizing to admit… that I am wrong– that things I have thought and acted on were just not right, not Godly, not Christlike.
But when I have allowed God to work, and I have humbly told my husband that I know this or that was wrong and will you please forgive me, there is such a freedom that comes. And usually he turns right around and tells me that he realizes it was not all my fault.
** When you have conflict with your husband, do you ever honestly asked God to reveal your own fault in the situation? and then talked humbly and openly with your husband about it?
How do you intentionally show your husband he is your #1? I’d love to read it in the comments!
I pray these thoughts are encouraging to someone today!
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by tascha |
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| book review |
When I volunteered to read The Good Wife’s Guide {with a foreword by Candace Cameron Bure} to offer a review of it, I was truly honored {read: *tickled purple*-I like purple better than pink} that the author responded and was willing for me to do so.
Darlene has genuinely taken to heart the passage in Titus 2 that instructs …teach the young women… in this book about Embracing your Role as a Help Meet.
In a concise, easy-to-read format, Darlene lays out basic Biblical guidelines that will leave a Christian lady with the necessary tools in her heart and mind to be “the good wife.”
If you are looking for sound, Scriptural advice about what God’s intent of a help meet looks like and if you desire to learn from plain talk and practical advice, then this is a must read.
Some topics found:*using your strengths and
managing your weaknesses
*managing your time
and making priorities
*truth about what submission is
and a wife’s role
*basic truths on mothering
and practical ideas
*realistic methods of creating schedules
and routines for cleaning
*encouragement that being the woman God created you to be
is so much more!
If you are [or know of!] a young lady contemplating marriage, this is an excellent resource. As a young mother approaching 9 years of marriage, this book helped me reinforce those areas I am doing the right thing as well as spotlight [in an encouraging manner] some things that need some work {smiles}.
The Good Wife’s Guide will be an uplifting and helpful read to any Christian lady seeking to be a better wife [which I have found leads to being a better mommy, too!].
The author, Darlene Schacht, is a sweet lady [that I have never actually met] whose humble spirit and graceful charm are evident in her blog Time-Warp-Wife.
In her own words [from her blog bio]:
I cherish vintage values, and yet I understand they are simply a means to an end. Yes they are to be cherished, but unless I couple those values with strong conviction based upon the Word of God and what is right in His sight, they are nothing but tradition, custom and practice.
As a Christian, I accept the Word of God to be true, and each time I apply it to my life I quickly discover that there is a good reason God put it there. His wisdom exceeds mine.
Does this mean that I am a doormat to my husband or that I’m compromising my beliefs in any way? Absolutely not—I’m reinforcing them. I’m living out my faith which is backed by belief. I’m happily choosing to be my husband’s helper because faith powers every decision I make.
I believe that I was created with purpose, and in living out our purpose we discover a peace which passes all understanding through Jesus Christ our Lord.
*I received a free copy of this eBook
with the intent of writing a review.
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by tpiatt
a little glimpse into a truth God taught my heart… several years ago… I was perusing my post drafts… thoughts on which I never hit the “publish” button… and found this gem.
by tascha
Oh, this one may be one of the most difficult. It is very anti-cultural to speak of a man being a servant AND the one in charge…. not to mention they sound like completely opposite positions!
But not if we are following the example of Christ!
For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. Galatians 5:13
28-So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself… 32-This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33-Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; Ephesians 5: 28, 32,33 [portions]
Christians are to be pictures of Christ in our service of others; and specifically, husbands are a picture of Christ in the home!
3-Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4- Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Philippians 2:3-4
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8
Let us pray for our husbands to make wise decisions as the head of our home and to serve his family as the Christ-symbol.
There are so many posts out there that talk about being a wife the way God intended. There are a few posts about that on this blog. 
